Thinking Of My Dad

Twelve years ago today, my dad passed away. He had grown old and, suddenly one day, he just died. It was a pivotal moment for me. As an only child, I had to step up and assume the patriarchal role as “head” of the family.

I think about my dad just about every day. He was a part of a generation of clergy who, for some reason, thought the church was more important than family. He was a great dad in that he gave me everything I ever wanted, but he failed as a father because, as I was growing up, he didn’t have time for me. I am sure there are others of you reading my thoughts that had the same experience.

The reason I tell you all of this is to remind you of your role as husband, father and spiritual leader of your home and family. I don’t want you to have any regrets. I know it’s trite, but the most important people in your congregation are your spouse and children.

Talk about things other than the church. We never did that. Take time to establish memories aside from church activity. I don’t remember many of those times. And whatever you do, model love before your children for your husband or wife — and tell your family members often how much you love them…even your adolescent children.

For some reason, I feel a little empty today — but I’ll be better tomorrow. Remember — no regrets! If you have some you can begin right now to make things better.

“How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are” (1 John 3:1). That’s what I’m talking about — “lavished” love.

Have a great week!